A History of Losing My Shirt

August 26th, 2023

“Hot like wasabi when I bust rhymes
Big like LaAnn Rimes
Because I’m all about value”

– Ancient 1990’s proverb

In recovery, I live by the mantra “Progress, not perfection”; as I study karate, I’ve learned that its true goal is “the perfection of character.”

These are not mutually exclusive principles.

I’m dealing with a mild-to-spicy self-esteem crisis (in this economy, aren’t we all?) and I know that its root is my idea of my own value.

We tell ourselves (and those we love) that it doesn’t matter what other people think; that true self-esteem comes from within.

I don’t think it’s that simple.

Look, I’ve spent a lot of time not liking me. Neither of us are really interested in the reasons why. But over the past five years, I’ve actually learned to accept, enjoy, and sometimes love the actual monster that I am.

But it has done little for my self-esteem.

And it’s because I live in this thing called the world.

I can adore myself and still need outside affirmation, because I am always in my own head, and my own head is biased. We need each other to tell us who we are; not to ourselves, but who we are to them.

For a person living in the world, it’s our only real sense of value.

I can feel like I’m valuable, but if nobody tells me I am, if I don’t get paid or compensated like I am, if my relationships don’t validate those feelings, if I’m not treated like an essential piece of the community puzzle I prize, then how can I know that I am?

Value is dictated by the market. The market is everybody else.

Nobody is perfect, and our values vary.

I live by making progress, and knowing that it will never lead to perfection, because I was born with a fatal flaw: I have the disease of being human.

But progress needs a target, and if that target is perfection, then progress never really ends. And if that’s true, then it means we are invaluable, priceless even; there is no limit to how we can increase our worth.

Worth that is ultimately determined by everybody but ourselves.

It’s why I often reach out and tell people who I barely speak to that I think what they’re doing is incredibly dope. I regularly tell people they’re doing an amazing job, and even though I sound like I’m being a smart ass, I mean it. I give high fives and throw elbow bumps and activate awkward hugs where needed.

I try to remember that my words matter, and when I am in the moment, I can use them to remind people that they matter.

People should know their value. People close to you, those arm’s-length away, and complete strangers.

We determine value. We let people know what they are.

And more often than not, it doesn’t cost us anything.

The Weirdos, Part IV: The Blue-Ringer

August 24th, 2023

George Michael sang, “I gotta have faith,” and, God, does the Blue-Ringer ever.

Moe Crawford is the odd duck in a group full of strange fowl.

He’s upbeat, infectiously positive, even in the face of the worst news; his unshakable belief in God keeps him going; he generally has his shit together — qualities none of the other Weirdos share.

I half-jokingly refer to him as the anti-Peter Parker, the opposite of Spider-Man’s alter-ego: Peter is a man of science; Moe, a man of faith. Peter is broke as hell, and Moe is doing pretty well. Peter has the worst luck, and Moe will be the first to tell you that he has lived a blessed life.

Both, though, get bit by a creature that changes their lives forever.

Moe, a young marine biologist, finds out he has cancer; shortly thereafter, a blue-ringed octopus at the aquarium gives him a sting, and disappears. Science tells him he should be dead, both from that bite and the cancer, but he instead finds himself getting stronger and developing superhuman powers.

“My cancer wasn’t a mistake,” he says. “And neither was that bite.” Indeed, he believes both were challenges and gifts from God.

Moe is based on several people, but his core came from those who have found themselves with cancer and, somehow, not only found a way to endure that darkness, but become a light for those around them. I see those people in the world and they are the closest thing to divine awe I have experienced; he is a symbol of that.

He was also the last addition to the team.

I had Ashley, Axis, and Das as a trio for a long time, but it felt like something (or someone) was missing. They made a formidable pity party, and I needed someone who could break through those heavy clouds. Or, better yet, could be their silver lining.

When I tell the quick story of The Weirdos at events — “he’s an alcoholic, she’s depressed, he has cancer, he has anger issues; they all end up at rehab facility called Lake Mary and form a team called The Weirdos” — I see moments of recognition in every person’s eyes, depending on the character I’m pointing at.

At a convention, a young woman asked me how a person with cancer would benefit from this rehabilitation.

When my mom went through cancer, I got my answer.

Having cancer is lonely.

It’s a thing that we don’t talk about for so many reasons, but, I think, mostly because we don’t know how. We don’t know whether to talk exclusively about it, or act like it’s not happening, or what the right balance is, if there is a right balance at all.

So we often fail at comfort. It’s something I hear from people who have had cancer again and again.

Like the other problems on that list, though, I think the answer is connection through honesty.

When everyone else is sharing their story, Moe shares his, and his story becomes a part of everybody else’s. He isn’t alone. He has God, and he has his family, but now, just as importantly, he has a group of people going through it, just like he is, who aren’t afraid of talking about the things that make them afraid.

Or angry. Or sad.

Things that we sometimes don’t let on to other humans because we don’t want to burden them, because we want them to like us, because we want them to think that we’re okay.

The Weirdos are about not being okay. But talking about it, and maybe finding okay somewhere on the other side.

You just gotta have faith.

Writing With Dennis Vogen!

See you November 1st!

August 22nd, 2023

I’m finally doing it! Class is in session and I’m the teacher!

On Wednesday, November 1st, from 7 pm to 9 pm, I will be at Labyrinth Puzzle Rooms in Downtown Lakeville to discuss:

– Writing short stories, novellas & novels
– Publishing your work
– National Novel Writing Month

And any questions you bring to the table, of course. This is something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time; oddly enough, I was seriously considering this when Melissa at LPR reached out and asked if I had ever considered this!

Plus, you’ll be able to chat with me after class about one-on-one mentorship if you need extra help with your work!

Cost is $25 for the 2 hour session. Space is limited! Share this with that person in your life who has always said they were going to write that book someday. That day could be soon…

[ 📸 by Cori Miller Photography ]

Our Event Page on Facebook: https://fb.me/e/1g3V9DqS7?mibextid=Gg3lNB

FIGHT!

August 21st, 2023

I look like an idiot.

I haven’t been on my usual bullshit lately, writing about my messy emotions or mental health, or about politics or the climate or philosophy or grief or sobriety. It’s not that I don’t think about these things anymore; they’re all I think about, the things that keep me up at night, the things that make me, well, me.

The condition I’m in right now is a very real state of burn out; the dark, sticky, cloud-covered kind, where the furniture and walls are covered in a heavy sheet of hot ash as black as the absence of light.

I’m not having a lot of fun, generally; the overall absence of joy is undeniable when I do feel an actual burst of it. Like many people, I find myself going through the motions, frustrated, feeling those gears wobble and snarl and fail to reject the seemingly singular forward motion being mindlessly pushed through them.

We have to, right? Being the 99% in a late capitalistic society, we are expected to do the least-worst things we can find, eat that shit heartily, and then ask for more.

It’s a voice in my ear that sounds like my own but meaner: “You have to do this. If you don’t, you will be broke, unpopular, and you will die.”

It’s not untrue.

I haven’t written about this because, generally, I try to write from a place where I can see a way out. Sure, some of these entries can end with us still sitting in a dark cardboard box, wiping each other’s tears, but most of them have their lids punctuated with holes for both air and light. Hope poking through, if you will.

I don’t have any tasty treats to offer you today.

My writing and art is a solace for me, but I can feel all this [gestures wildly inside of me] spilling out into it like wild oil. I don’t want to turn that magical forest toxic.

So I’ve been trying out other things.

Which is why I look like an idiot today.

I’ve been reading more. I’ve been playing the bass, specifically, learning everything I can about just one instrument and not worrying about doing anything more with it. Just playing. Connecting to words and music in the deepest ways I can.

And I’ve taken up karate. It definitely sprung from my pop culture love of Ninja Turtles and Cobra Kai and Jedi, but I’m trying to find new ways to find myself, find the kind of balance I’ve been desperately seeking since the day I started existing, an actual place of peace.

I believe in being proactive; we can’t change or grow until we decide to change and grow. But the helplessness of this brand of burn out, the kind dictated by the world we live in, lends itself to a hopelessness that I don’t need help nurturing.

No, it’s a hopelessness that I hope to karate chop in the face.

Sparring partners welcome.

The Weirdos, Part III: Art So Terrible It Almost Looks Human

August 15th, 2022

Do you ever wake up and wonder what’s real?

When I was a kid, I always dreamed of having my own comic book; as an adult, when I began creating it, I was determined to “do it the right way.”

Paper. Pencils. Ink. Lots of coffee.

Of course, there is no right way to do anything.

And doing The Weirdos like this was both genuinely rewarding for my heart & soul, and an undeniable headache.

Starting with the paper itself.

I knew I would be publishing black & white issues, but I also thought about the future of the series and potentially collecting it as a graphic novel. To do that, I would have to color it; I got into watercolor painting at the beginning of my sobriety, and decided that would be my path if I chose to go so far.

So I drew the entire series, all five issues, on massive pieces of watercolor paper.

Since a regular copier was too small for my medium, I would have to go to FedEx Office to individually scan every piece of paper through their giant scanner.

As for the artwork itself: it’s not easily definable. I see elements of classic superhero art, sure, but also animation, manga, and, especially, newspaper comics like Peanuts and Calvin & Hobbes.

It all culminates in something very me and, more importantly, very human.

Doing things on paper often forced me to make hard decisions and leave lines in that irritate me to this day. It also made me really think about emotion and my linework and the most important thing to me: clarity of communication.

Something has become very clear to me five years later (yeah, I can’t believe it either: The Flying Squirrel #1 came out in August 2018!): my very human art was not a detriment to the story, as I duly felt as the issues were released. No, the exact opposite was true: for my very human story to connect like it has, the art — not created in a computer, not through the tools of Photoshop or AI — had to be as human as the characters were.

This isn’t to say that digital art isn’t “as real”; I, myself, made the transition with my Brushfire series, created entirely on tablet.

This is to say that The Weirdos got told in the best possible way I could tell it.

I have recieved so many messages over the years, and a lot of them have had a similar theme: people have been getting burned out on our systems. Even (or especially) the mighty Marvel machine. Their series and films have started to leave some people cold, and they found a warm space when they picked up my book.

Ironically, what they find is what Marvel started doing in the 60’s.

They find flaws. They find people who are anything but perfect, but who have potential, and the ability, like we all do, to get a little better, every single day.

They find something real.

Something very human.

The Weirdos, Part II: The Sketch

August 11th, 2023

I love Abigail “Axis” Coire — aka The Sketch, though she’s never referred to by that name in Volume I — so much, for so many reasons, but one of the strongest is her complexity. The irony of this is not lost on me, because she began as a single question: “Wouldn’t it be cool if a stick figure fought crime in the real world?”

Axis was originally a dude (because I am deeply unoriginal), and a stick figure because I am a terrible artist or, at the very least, a terribly lazy one. I was tired of only getting marginally better at art, and thought I could create a shortcut by using a simple character.

She ended up being everything but.

With Axis, I wanted to talk about depression, and follow it to the point of suicidal thoughts. I’ve personally dealt with some pretty gnarly episodes of depression myself; despite how open I am about my other stuff (addiction, anxiety, grief, etc.), I am strangely secretive about it, except when it comes to fiction.

I feel more comfortable addressing deeply uncomfortable things through character.

Her story has many parallels to Ashley’s, but one is invisible to the reader. In The Flying Squirrel, we see Ash drinking from tiny bottles of vodka in public places; in The Sketch, Axis makes herself think about things like water and wind and the feeling of cold to prevent herself from throwing up. I used to do both of those things sequentially almost daily.

The reasons for Axis’ transformation into The Sketch are as complicated as she is, and I have no interest in spelling them all out. I have heard awesome theories about her from readers and there isn’t any reason that their ideas are any less valid than mine. She belongs to you as much as she belongs to me.

I do want to talk about what I feel is an obvious reason, though: her identity.

When we meet her, she is in the middle of a breakup at her favorite coffee shop, Helen of Chai. (This is also the first appearance of my now-legendary MN Nice mug.) She doesn’t get regular sad afterward, though; she drowns in her bed, sleeping for eight whole months, internally losing her identity and struggling to hold on to any sense of who she is.

And when she wakes up, she is reduced to her core.

She is, understandably, confused and angry and scared.

That her core is unimaginably powerful and capable of breaking the rules of the page says something about what’s inside each and every one of us, too.

Brushfire: Wave 2 Officially Sets Sail!

August 9th, 2023

I blinked and, whoa, tonight was over!

I met a lady this afternoon who wondered aloud if she was meeting a future famous best-seller, and this is the part of the post where I get saccharine like cotton candy and tell the people who have been supporting me this whole time — for over ten years now — that you have already made me feel famous and like a really important writer, and I only ever say these things because they’re absolutely true.

So thank you.

I know how valuable time is and when you spend it coming out to see me (or read me), I never take that for granted, not for even a second.

Thank you for the warm conversation and for having some summertime snacks with me (I hooked a few on my new seasonal faves, the orange cream- and key lime pie-flavored Bubly sparkling water).

And a special thanks, as always, to Jason and Maurice and the cultural institution we know as Issues Needed Comics in Apple Valley. Always accommodating and welcoming and one of the best shops in the universe; I’m incredibly lucky to have this place in my neighborhood.

My unending gratitude for helping me smash a celebratory bottle on the side of this ship; Brushfire: Wave 2 has set sail and, before we know it, Wave 3 will be here and you’ll know what awaits us on the final shore.

The Weirdos, Part I: The Flying Squirrel

August 7th, 2023

It’s no secret that Ashley Maypole, the main character of my comic The Flying Squirrel, is the Weirdo most like me.

He’s an alcoholic comic book writer with Imposter Syndrome and an unhealthy obsession with squirrels.

He has a son and a Boston Terrier and a best friend who looks a lot like one of my best friends.

I did not step too far outside the house for this one.

But did you know that Ash got sober before I did?

There’s a long history of writers and artists who have been affected by the characters they’ve created. Jack Kirby started to go blind in one eye while regularly drawing Nick Fury, who is famous for his eye-patch; Grant Morrison gave a character based on themself a rare illness, and then came down with that rare illness themself.

Subconsciously, I must have wondered if the opposite was true.

I created Ash when I was still drinking, and his story was always one of the alcoholic who ends up in rehab. The delicious irony of this is that I had no plans to sober up myself, because I was not my character. He had a problem that I did not have.

Except I did.

And it wasn’t until I wrote him getting better that I realized I could get better.

There is plenty about Ash that is different, too, and he reflects both the worst and best of who I have been and who I could be. I have his problems, but I also have his potential.

I’ve written a whole essay on him and Imposter Syndrome, and the term “faux poet” is how I describe myself in my head daily; the idea of what is real and what is fake is at the heart of his issue.

It’s also about the sometimes-heavy task of looking at ourselves in the mirror, which can be seen in the use of a handful of words from two songs: Reflections by Atmosphere, and Landslide by Fleetwood Mac.

An important moment in Ash’s story that I point out to people is that he does not get better when he becomes the hero; I got sick of seeing stories that featured that narrative. As often as one person loses it all, another can get everything they ever wanted and still can’t stop their addiction.

I came up with the two four-letter phrases that bookend the story while I was still in it, wondering if my life was one worth living.

Anything can be saved.

Everything can be destroyed.

It has never been less true.

And there is nothing more beautiful than someone who has saved themselves from under the wreckage of their own destruction.

Ashley Maypole showed me the way.

“Faribault famous”

August 2nd, 2023

I did a neat thing last week and it’s out today: the Faribault Daily News published a feature on me + my life + my work!

You can check it out on their website at faribault dot com and of course I have some behind-the-scenes tea for you!

– Pam and I met at the restaurant where I work; I was her server and we struck up a conversation and next thing I knew, I was having coffee with her in Northfield a few weeks later!
– I spoke to Pam like I speak to anyone I meet, whether that’s at my table at a convention or just out in the wild, and to be completely honest I got a little discomfort in my tummy when I saw in print how much I openly share about myself; and then I realized that’s probably why people feel so comfortable sharing things with me, and it’s maybe why I’m okay at art, and that initial cold shock turned into warm awe.
– There is a reveal in the article and I am here to confirm its legitimacy: my next novel is indeed about vampires, and it is called Maple Island.
– There is a partial misquote at the end that I want to clarify: Ted Danson played a character called Sam Malone on Cheers, and their names became a portmanteau of sorts! But I have often called myself the real life Sam Malone.
– I have also never been a podcaster by definition, but I have been a guest on many podcasts!
– The online version of the article gives shout outs to my friends Steven Starks and Cori Miller and their beautiful work, and that makes me really happy.
– Marvel is now newspaper famous and I think we can all get behind that.

We were joking at the reunion that I was “Faribault famous” and today I guess that’s a little true; a huge thanks to Pam and the staff at the Faribault and Northfield News for this humbling spotlight. Pick up a paper if you still can!

I saw the Ninja Turtles movie tonight (probably my favorite film of the summer) and one of its lessons is that you shouldn’t do things for recognition and to get people to like you; you should do things for the right reasons, and then maybe those other things will follow.

I know I create art for the right reasons, so whenever something like this happens — someone else recognizes it, someone else likes it — I never, ever take it for granted.

And I never, ever, ever stop.

All my love.

Direct link: https://www.southernminn.com/faribault_daily_news/news/graphic-novelist-and-illustrator-releases-his-11th-book/article_40379030-2b0c-11ee-9d6d-475dc49a886d.html

SKP 2023: The Weirdos

August 1st, 2023

It’s August, the season finale of summer, and this month we’re talking my superhero anti-epic, The Weirdos.

This story has everything: humble (and prophetic) origins, addiction, rehab, superpowers, bad words, good hearts, watercolor paper, that time I got blacklisted from every local printer, community, connection, more bad words, healing, and four people with problems who have potential and mean the entire universe to me.

Pour a hot cup of tea into your MN Nice mug and cozy up on that orange couch as we discuss the past, present, and future of The Weirdos.