August 12th, 2026 Last night at work we were talking about identity and it inspired me to come up with a scenario that a fifth-grader could clearly understand. At our restaurant, we have a neat deal: if your name is Gary, you get 50% off your meal (up to $15 [this is not a paidContinue reading “At a Discount”
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THEY’RE GR•R•REAT!
July 27th, 2026 “Be grateful to everyone.” When I first heard this lojong slogan from Buddhist master Atisha, I thought: duh. It’s obviously good to be grateful; I have learned how to be grateful. In fact, finding and keeping gratitude saved my life. But I was performing half the equation of gratitude. I was onlyContinue reading “THEY’RE GR•R•REAT!”
Sat
July 21st, 2026 A dragonfly convinced me that the decades I spent thinking I would never be able to meditate were wrong. I’ve written about meditation several times here over the years and had repeatedly decided that it was basically stupid and not for me. Turns out I’m just kind of stupid (story of myContinue reading “Sat”
Fight Song
July 3rd, 2026 I saw a t-shirt today that made me sad. It also served as an important statement on the state of this country during our birthday this weekend. The shirt itself was joyously racist and aggressively obnoxious; in other words, it well-represented the administration and its supporters. It’s not always a shirt; sometimesContinue reading “Fight Song”
Dual
June 17th, 2026 I don’t know what I am. Zen Buddhism says that in our absolute reality, each of us are the whole universe and nothing simultaneously; in our individual, relative versions of reality, however, I believe the entire point of our existence is to discover who we actually are before we’re gone. Usually whenContinue reading “Dual”
Quality
March 31, 2026 Eventually you will be unable to give any of yourself to this world. I don’t mean to say this as a way to plunge you into a cold existential void. If anything, I want this to be a splash of cool water on your face, a reminder. Human life is hard. FrictionContinue reading “Quality”
And you know we’re on each other’s team
January 10th, 2026 I wrote something insane last night. Like, the kind of essay that could cost me my job, lose me hundreds of followers, inspire wellness checks. It was unhinged, full of rage and despair, my words as vindictive and cutting as a pair of scissors laced with cyanide. It was actually pretty fuckingContinue reading “And you know we’re on each other’s team”
I Was A Human
January 7th, 2026 Goddamn it. I try to be a voice of reason and sense, of kindness and decency for the people in my life who are close to me; but what happened today, and what has been happening in this country for years under the watch and thumb of the man responsible for thisContinue reading “I Was A Human”
Sleeping Dogs
March 24th, 2025 It’s no surprise I’m stressed out (because I live on this planet and this planet does not have its shit together whatsoever); I’m ambitious yet anxious, careful yet crazy, busy yet broke. I was walking past the bed and saw Marvel sleeping under the sun on our sheets, and I will neverContinue reading “Sleeping Dogs”
Equivoque
February 15th, 2025 Do you want to learn a fun sleight-of-hand trick that can reveal a fraud close to you? It’s super neat and I can teach you myself. This isn’t going to be an enjoyable post but it is an essential one. This will help explain where everybody stands. We don’t have to getContinue reading “Equivoque”
The Den 