mr. nobody

May 7th, 2021 Nobody changes. I hear it all the time. It’s ingrained as a moral in our stories and popular culture. Folks say it about other folks regularly, like those other folks don’t say the same thing about them. Nobody changes. I think it makes people comfortable to think this. Everyone is something, andContinue reading “mr. nobody”

Do or Donut

May 3rd, 2021 My friend asked me for advice on being a dad the other day. In general, I don’t “give advice”; I choose to share my experiences and what I learned (or didn’t learn) from those times, in the hopes that maybe someone else can learn (or not learn) something from them, too. IContinue reading “Do or Donut”

The City

May 1st, 2021 Every year on my birthday, my favorite song to turn on and up (by one of my favorite bands, The 1975) is called The City. By the time I get to the pre-chorus, I find myself in the right mood. The lyrics there go: “Yeah, well, she said, ‘It’s your birthday. AreContinue reading “The City”

The Village Idiot

April 28th, 2021 I learned more than I readily admit about life and art from high school theater. This morning during my drive, I was thinking about something that happened during my favorite play that I was a part of, Cinderella Waltz, that ended up being a lifelong lesson in how to make art. InContinue reading “The Village Idiot”

Life After Life

April 24th, 2021 I finished watching After Life tonight (which I had talked a little about yesterday). It’s a simple joy when, instead of learning a new lesson from something, it just reaffirms a belief you’ve known all along. One of the things that Tony learns is that sharing the life of someone he hadContinue reading “Life After Life”

Happy Earth Day from Mars

April 22nd, 2021 I was brainwashed as a child to love and deeply care for my planet. And I couldn’t be more grateful. If you’re my age, you might have been, too. So how did this happen? If you were a child of the 70’s and 80’s, you lived through what many consider to beContinue reading “Happy Earth Day from Mars”

New Interview Alert! Basement Boy Banter Podcast

April 21, 2021 Five years after I was the first guest co-host on Basement Boy Banter, both the show and I return, this time to promote my new collection of essays, Time is a Solid State. Like my book, our conversation covers a wide lens of topics, from the multiversally nerdy to the intimately personal.Continue reading “New Interview Alert! Basement Boy Banter Podcast”

Breaking Bad

April 20th, 2021 This morning I was cleaning out my phone (it feels five pounds lighter without all those Baby Yoda memes [remember Baby Yoda memes?!]) when I came across something that I obviously saved for a reason. It reads: “If you’re ever scared that you’re a bad person, remember that bad people don’t careContinue reading “Breaking Bad”

The Waiting Room

April 17th, 2021 I’ve been checking in here and there during this process of loss (generating a mutual field of reflection), and I guess I was wondering if it’s okay to check in right now. Cool? Cool. On my way to work today, I realized that yesterday marked six months since my mom exited stageContinue reading “The Waiting Room”

The Ghost Kingdom

April 14th, 2021 We can build an infinite amount of worlds in our head in which to live. Sometimes we create them as a means to escape, sometimes when we create them we’re returned a massive amount of guilt, and oftentimes these worlds do both. This is going to be a deeply personal essay aboutContinue reading “The Ghost Kingdom”