Softer Ways

October 7th, 2020

It’s rough out there.

I just wanted to share some affirmations with you that help me when I remember to stop, take a breath, and think about them.

Which I wish I did more, but it’s really rough out there, and I’m spreading myself as thin as I can, trying to keep me so busy this month that I forget that this month is this month.

The affirmations go kind of like this:

Just because someone is louder than you, it doesn’t mean they’re right.

Just because someone has stronger convictions than you, it doesn’t mean they’re right.

Just because someone believes in something more than you, it doesn’t mean they’re right.

Just because someone says they’re smarter than you, it doesn’t mean they’re right.

And just because someone is in a group that outnumbers you, it doesn’t mean they’re right.

I can tell you what makes a person wrong, though.

Anyone who generalizes any group of people is wrong.

Anyone who can’t recognize cognitive dissonance or hypocrisy is wrong.

Anyone who forces someone to follow any set of beliefs, especially the kind that are impossible to prove, is wrong.

Anyone who is mean or cruel is wrong.

Anyone who says they have never been wrong is wrong.

It’s rough out there, and I have to remind myself of words like this because if I don’t, I’ll spiral, too. I’ll start to generalize. I’ll be hypocritical. I’ll try to force someone to see things my way. I’ll be mean. I’ll be cruel. I’ll be wrong.

And I don’t have it in me to be that way anymore. I’m tired.

I want to be kind, and I want to be fun, and I want to talk about things we like, and I want to be of service to people.

I really, really do.

I hope these words can be of some service to you.