Hey, Shorty

May 1st, 2019 I saw an interview with J.Lo in which she said that men are “useless” until they turn 33. I can’t even argue with that. I’m a clandestine member of a team that is part Fight Club, part church, and I got fired up today. We were talking about perfection and the sinContinue reading “Hey, Shorty”

Art Owes You Nothing

April 28th, 2019 Art owes you nothing. If you find light, or find hope, or joy or peace or love in art, ultimately that’s on you. Similarly, if you look at a work of art and it pisses you off, or deeply upsets you, or makes you angry or sad or indifferent — that isContinue reading “Art Owes You Nothing”

Mister Sandman

April 14th, 2019 I just finished reading all ten volumes of Neil Gaiman’s The Sandman. This will be a long post, so I’ll see two, maybe three of you down there at the end. Rarely in your life do you experience a work of art in which you are changed and you can never goContinue reading “Mister Sandman”

Don’t Be A Meme

April 10th, 2019 My entire life, I’ve been told that I speak too much, that I use too many words and that I talk too fast. For a lot of my life, I was told to “fix” those things for miscellaneous reasons. It wasn’t until I learned to like myself that I realized there wasn’tContinue reading “Don’t Be A Meme”

Damage/Control

April 3rd, 2019 “All art is a kind of confession, more or less oblique. All artists, if they are to survive, are forced, at last, to tell the whole story; to vomit the anguish up.” – James Baldwin Since the anniversary of Them and Us on Monday, I’ve been rereading my work. There are manyContinue reading “Damage/Control”

When Do The Bad Thoughts Stop?

March 19th, 2019 As a recovered/forever recovering person, I think the question I get asked the most is: “So when do the bad feelings and thoughts stop?” I avoid this question. But I think, in the spirit of true transparency, I should answer it, and as honestly as I can: they don’t. I still haveContinue reading “When Do The Bad Thoughts Stop?”

Fifteen Months

March 9th, 2019 For those of you at home keeping score, today I completed 15 months of sobriety. To share how I’ve been progressing, I Googled “15 months” and all of these things accurately describe me and where I’m at: • Walking. Your 15-month-old is probably taking at least a few steps on her own.Continue reading “Fifteen Months”

What Doesn’t Kill You

March 7th, 2019 Why is “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” such a commonly used phrase? I know some of the greats use it (I’m looking at you, Kelly Clarkson), but it is inherently false. What doesn’t kill you rarely makes you stronger. What doesn’t kill you can harm you, hurt you, cut you,Continue reading “What Doesn’t Kill You”

Comic Books Saved My Life

February 26th, 2019 Confession: comic books saved my life. Not in a hyperbolic, overly dramatic way, mind you. It’s just whenever I’ve felt lost and lacking direction, I have always been able to find what I need in the pages of a comic. Like any other human on this planet, I’ve been through stuff. AndContinue reading “Comic Books Saved My Life”

We Are Better People, Despite Claims To The Contrary

February 13th, 2019 No matter how much you progress in life, there will always be people there to remind you of the times you were a piece of crap. This is okay. Unfortunately, this is how the human brain works for some reason. I’ve had a few days like that this week, but instead ofContinue reading “We Are Better People, Despite Claims To The Contrary”