June 29th, 2021 Hi! I’m a white person, and this is a post about white fragility. If you’re a white person, I encourage you to come along. I’m not going to just throw things at you that you’ve heard before; no, as is my way, I’m going to share a deeply personal story about myselfContinue reading “The Bad Guy . . . Duh.”
Tag Archives: Worth
Change, or Die
June 16th, 2021 Working in a bar as long as I have, I’ve heard a lot of stories. Most of them about other human beings. Most of them some kind of drama or hardship or horror. Quite a few of them about people who didn’t make it. Some of the people just had bad luck,Continue reading “Change, or Die”
Fifty First Rates
June 15th, 2021 There’s this magic number we think about often as self-published writers: 50. That’s the number of reviews to takes on Amazon to get their attention. It is both a small number and (as someone who’s largest set of reviews is 7 for a book that’s almost 8 years old) an impossibly greatContinue reading “Fifty First Rates”
Alarm For The Cause Of Being Brave
June 4th, 2021 I’m almost done writing a book (I may have mentioned it earlier) and it has taken me to some of the darkest places writing has ever taken me (I also mentioned that in passing). One of its lessons is about the power of being honest with yourself (and the power dishonesty canContinue reading “Alarm For The Cause Of Being Brave”
Your Own Damn Path
June 2nd, 2021 Evolution is determined by those who act, and the same who act also determine our history and our future. It’s not abnormal for me to get ahead of myself, so let me start over. Let’s say you’re a cave-person, and you find yourself faced with a sabertooth tiger. If you decide toContinue reading “Your Own Damn Path”
Baby, Do You Know What That’s Worth?
May 31st, 2021 There’s an episode of Black Mirror called San Junipero that is based on the idea of a digital life and afterlife. It’s my favorite and one of the rare installments of Black Mirror that has an undeniably happy ending. Without spoiling anything, the end of the episode uses “Heaven Is A PlaceContinue reading “Baby, Do You Know What That’s Worth?”
Why of the Tiger
May 24th, 2021 I find that using metaphor is helpful in explaining behavior or situations or phenomena in a way that encourages the person reading it to be less defensive and feel not attacked. So let’s talk about tiger trainers. First things first: being a tiger trainer is one of the dumbest careers in theContinue reading “Why of the Tiger”
The Grind
May 17th, 2021 None of us asked to be here. What I mean by that is: never in human history did any of us specifically request to be born. Keep this in mind for a minute. As we reassess what life was, what it’s been over the last year and what it’s going to lookContinue reading “The Grind”
Truth Serum
May 12th, 2021 There was a phrase I used to hear all the time when I was drinking that would put fear in me more than anything else anyone could say. “The truth comes out when you’re drunk.” This was repeated so often that it was no longer anecdotal for me, an absolute, objective truthContinue reading “Truth Serum”
Am Pathetic?
May 11th, 2021 Is empathy an accurate tool towards understanding? That’s not a rhetorical question. I’m actually asking. Because I’m having trouble trying to reconcile two different points of view from a singular source. Let’s pick a job. I’m not going to make this easy because that’s not what I do, so let’s say theContinue reading “Am Pathetic?”
The Den 